We always like to hear nice things! So, when others speak fondly about us, we are happy, on the other hand, we hate to hear unpleasant remarks about us!
As our society developed, as we geared towards a cultural society, we wanted to show our care and concern by saying only nice things to others. As times passed by, we forgotten the progress is based on constructive ideas and feedbacks from people with different perspectives. The nice words we collected over the years built our confidence, and we relaxed our humble beginning by listening to others. When we hear something that is different from our thoughts, our defensive system will automatically kick in. We refuse to listen anymore! We became more self-centred and less caring even though we talked so much about it.
With a society that is so highly developed, all of us are busy with our own lives. We always like to gather positive remarks, comments or information that are in favour of us. Often, we failed to see the truth! Failing to see the truth enable cheats and lairs to flourish. A lack of time is the excuse we generally like to use, and it hinders our progress and development.
In the teachings of Confucius, he has three phrases that speak against flowery words. In two of these phrases, he mentioned that flowery words will erode one's moral character. In the last phrase, he tells us that flowery words are unlikey to be of justice and great virture. So the next time when we want to say nice words to others, think twice.
